This is a great basic teaching on the essence of emotional intimacy I found which I have added my own spiritual wisdom and thoughts to. Emotional intimacy often gets confused with physical intimacy. I feel the emotional and spiritual connections have tremendous value in creating a healthy foundation to build on.
Intimacy is a sense of closeness to another person, a real sense of two-way empathy. When we are emotionally intimate we can share personal feelings, display affection and not be dismissed or judged harshly. There is a sense of being heard and connected to the heart and soul of that other person. It creates a sense of well-being when we are heard. Not everyone needs to agree with everything you say, yet we all yearn for the heart to heart connection of being heard, respected and not judged.
We all love the idea that our true friends will love and support us no matter what. Yet when we open ourselves up with discussing issues we need to remember that often they are projecting their own ‘stuff’ on us which can be confusing. It is important to be mindful and aware of who you share any relationship issues with. This is sacred ground, keep it that way.
Many romantic partners describe their special person as their ‘best friend’, we are a ‘team’ – a perfect combination of physical and emotional intimacy. It is my opinion that all relationships that have longevity are built on spiritual friendship first. Emotional intimacy can exist between friends, family relations and lovers. Some people even feel emotional intimacy with their pet. There is no doubt that a sense of shared intimacy is important for both mental and physical health. It connects us to the natural state of the soul which is peace, balance and happiness!
How would you define emotional intimacy? Are your relationships flowing in a manner that is spontaneous, natural and trusting? Do you feel safe sharing thoughts and feelings? Do you feel a connection beyond the physical body? Do you want more?
What I really want to add here is taking this one step further. What is spiritual intimacy? Do you have a connection to something greater than yourself? I am not referring to religion I am gently guiding you to consciously have a connection to the divine which I will expand on in another article.
The main issue today I feel is that we have been so distracted with the material world of ‘stuff and things’ that we have forgotten to reclaim our divinity. What does that really mean? How when and where do you find the time to connect to the divine? Is it watching a sunset? Is it dancing with joy? Are you doing yoga online? Do you sit quietly and meditate and pray? Have you considered active meditations?
Let me suggest one simple technique I use every single day.
I wrap my arms around myself just like wrapping a shawl. I then close my eyes, take a few breaths, and say ‘Be with Me.’ I stay quiet for about 5 minutes. It calms everything down. Be quiet, be with me and be still. Then feel the divine within you hugging you right back!